Where does strength really come from?

Where does strength really come from?

I wish I knew the precise answer to this question so that I could share the secret sauce with you right now and you could have a lifetime supply of full access to all the strength you’ll ever need to achieve whatever it is that you really want.

(Even the deeply challenging stuff and the tremendously scary stuff. All of it.)



I don’t.

But I do know this:

Strength is a personal measurement for a truly unique subjective experience. Its entirely up to you to decide what strong means for you. We each develop and build strength in our own way and in our own time.

Strength comes from doing hard things. It comes from showing up despite the pain or fear and going through the struggle, the endurance and then building on that level to keep going forwards and upwards.

Strength comes from taking the time to notice and acknowledge what you have managed to do until now. So much of the time, we go through things without realizing what massive effort something took and we minimalize the entire experience because we only focus on the end result and not the process. Own your power. Strength comes from paying close attention to detail and to the small and significant steps and wins and incremental gains along the way. Strength comes from tracking progress and celebrating it one tiny bit at a time.



Strength comes from within – from precious moments of activating your highest faith and belief. Knowing why you do what you do even when its not easy. Strength comes from aligning with your core values and living with integrity even when no one is watching and you aren’t in the mood. When we connect to what truly matters to us, we are stronger. When we believe there is a bigger plan and are hopeful about an outcome, we feel stronger.

Strength comes from without. By surrounding ourselves with people who lift us up and see our worth, even when we sometimes forget. It comes from choosing to envelope yourself with kindness, inspiration, motivation and gratitude. It comes from selecting role models and learning from them, it comes from seeing ourselves through other’s eyes -especially those who see our greatness and light when all we see is our flaws, weakness and shortcomings of darkness.

Strength comes from grabbing lessons and blessings, often dressed up as really awful mistakes and failures. Strength comes from collecting moments you are genuinely proud of and taking the time to truly recognize these events for what they are and what they enabled you to accomplish, don’t overlook them. You get to use these strengths in countless ways and in other areas of your life as much as you want to.

Strength comes from knowing yourself.
As you begin to discover and unmask more of you, you get to make choices that honor more of you and you get to live your purpose and be more of who you really are. When we know better, we do better.

The strongest people I know have had insurmountable trials.

They know what to say yes to and how to say no.

They know how to be proud of themselves with humility and honesty.

They know how to pick their circles wisely and accept help, compliments and advice.

The strongest people I know cry a lot and feel everything.

The strongest people I know are the kindest.

The strongest people I know have wells of inner resources that are invisible to the naked eye.

The strongest people I know can say sorry, and learn how to forgive others and move past what was.

The strongest people I know can forgive themselves.

The strongest people I know fall down hard, and slowly with every ounce of courage, bravery and might get back up again – battered, bruised and aching.

The strongest people I know have incredible hearts that expand wider with each hurdle.

The strongest people I know teach me every single day how to try and be stronger myself.

Dedicated to strong people. May we know them, may we be them, may we raise them.


5 Ways To Get Unstuck In Life And Make Solid Progress

Up until now, you’ve always done things a certain way, to be exactly where you are, now.

Your health, finances, career and relationships are the way they are because of the actions and decisions you’ve taken until this point to get you to where you are right now in the present moment.

The important question is: Are you happy with where you are, now?

Imagine: If nothing were to change, and you continued to live your life exactly the way you have until this point, would you be content with your results?

If yes, keep doing what you’ve always done.

If kind of, sort of, maybe…. Then would you have regrets in the future?

If you’re not happy with where you are now, and you’re feeling somewhat stuck, then it’s time for change.

And that’s OK.

We are designed to want more, we are created to grow. And it’s never too late to start thinking of yourself differently, to start taking new decisions and most significantly if you desire, to propel your life in an entirely new direction!

It’s all up to you! You are one decision away from change.


Jeff Bezos, the wealthiest man in the world, uses something called the “regret minimization framework” to determine whether he should do something, or not.

Quite simply, if you would regret not doing something in the next few years, then you should do it!

So this article will show you 5 concrete ways to get unstuck, help you to stop just existing, and to start living.

Let’s get into it!

I’m excited to share these with you.

#1: Change Your Habits

People get stuck in life as they’re usually repeating their same mundane habits and past behaviors out of inertia. They’re too used to doing things the way they’ve always done them and keep following their regular daily routines, without conscious thought, mindfulness or presence. This is the most common cause of living a life on ‘autopilot’ and inevitably puts them out of control. It also leads to boredom, burnout and a life without passion.

We can only change what we are aware of and what we are willing to acknowledge.

An important step towards meaningful change is to stop, get aware and decide what exactly it is you want to change in your daily habits, and then start to adopt the new ones that enable you to feel more positive, and ultimately take the right actions for you and your outcomes and success.

Initially, you will need help to shake up your routine a bit, and hold yourself accountable for adopting the new habits you want to imbibe. But once you’re on the way to completing these habits daily, you will feel a renewed sense of purpose, deliberate intention and confidence like never before!

Start by enlisting the habits you want to adopt, and then creating an action plan for each of those habits. For instance, if you want to get up before 6am, exercise daily and cut your sugar intake completely, you need to be specific about these goals by naming the goal, setting a time frame, and creating an action plan and accountability plan for ensuring you get there.

Starting slow can be smart. By setting milestones that help you reach your goal, you can create an entire journey for yourself to your new habit! A life coach can be instrumental in helping you determine your goals, and creating this plan of action, so make sure you’re doing this collaboratively with one. I’m just a message away! 

#2: Define The Vision For The New You

To get unstuck, you need to know exactly what it would look like to be unstuck!

Knowing exactly why you’re stuck where you are is the first step towards acknowledging that you have a problem to fix. Don’t get stuck being stuck! You need to accept you’re stuck, and then do whatever it takes to get unstuck.

Once you know why you’re stuck, acknowledge you have a problem, and you’re fired up to get unstuck, you’ve already won half the battle in the context of planning your new self. Now you need to create a vision for new self, which can be so super exciting! And the best part is, you get to determine exactly who that person is!

Answering the following questions is a huge help:

  • Who is the new you going to be?
  • What type of person are you going to be?
  • What does your daily routine look like?
  • What kind of people do you mix with?
  • What sort of events do you go to?
  • What is your mindset like?
  • What’s your purpose?



You need to become the new person you want to be. To do this, spend time answering these questions in the present tense, as if it is happening for you right now, in this moment. Create a state where you are this person already and start to dream of everything you see in your mind. Listen to your intuition, it knows.

And by changing the way you think about both, yourself, and others, and the situations you’re in, you’ll start molding your psychology to think like, and be like the new person you want to be.

#3: Seek The Wisdom Of Those Who Have Been Through What You’re Going Through

While being stuck can be an isolating, lonely and very challenging experience, the truth is that you’re not the only one who’s stuck in your situation. There are many others, trust me, who have been through your experience, learned how to overcome it and get unstuck in creative ways!

Figure out who’s already been through what you’re going through or who has made a similar change.

Although our experiences are subjective and personal to our unique selves, we can model other people and surround ourselves with the right kind of inspiration, motivation and examples to help us shift – even if it’s just a little. Sometimes, just one adjustment to our situation can lead to a magnificent and powerful domino effect, unfolding incredible transformation.

Showing up and reaching out is what it takes.

It takes one brave conversation.

It takes one courageous outreach.

It takes one new perspective.

It take one changed behavior.

It takes one friend, one coach, one mentor, one hero….

Sometimes it takes one life-altering minute.

Are you struggling with paying off your debt? Or a new career choice?

Let your friends and family know your situation and that you’re looking to be connected to someone who has already solved a similar challenge to your own.

You’ll be so pleasantly surprised how willing people are to help!



Another approach is to research the internet, and browse forums like Quora for answers. People have asked and answered all kinds of questions on there!

Just put up your question there, and you will get a stream of answers in no time.

We don’t need to ever get unstuck alone.

#4: Connect With A Life Coach

Life coaches are there to help you get unstuck!

More often than not, the best insights ever comes from working with those who are passionately dispassionate.

A life coach isn’t your family member, which makes them see your situation dispassionately, while also being able to leverage their passion for genuinely helping people.

By connecting with a life coach, you can work with someone who’s dedicated to helping you solve your problems, and live the life of your dreams. A good life coach will use a range of effective tools, frameworks and proven strategies to assist you.

They’ve got plenty of really awesome life hacks up their sleeve! Trust me.

The important thing to note here is that life coaching is a process and can take time. By involving a life coach in helping you navigate your life challenges, you have an extra helping hand which will allow you to feel supported in courageously addressing your challenges.

You’ll never feel alone when you work with one!

#5: Meditate To Seek Your Inner Wisdom

Lastly, while you can have all the help in the world, you are the captain of your life and the master of your fate. Consulting external sources can be extremely helpful and may just give you the information you need, but you also need to consult yourself to make the best decision for yourself.


You are fully responsible for your decisions, your actions and your results. So you need to seek your innate inner wisdom, your intuitive voice and your sixth sense to make the best decisions.

You are the expert on your own life.

Prayer, breathing, silence and meditation are life-changing forces that enable this gift.

By sitting still in silence for a while, you can learn to block out all the noise inside and outside your head and just be present and attentive to what your heart truly wants to do.

Wrapping it up

Getting unstuck may be hard initially, I know.

However, it can be a very fulfilling experience if you use a combination of the suggested ways above to make even one positive change in your life.

Just do it!

I’m here to support you every step of the way!

Debunking 9 New Year’s Myths.

I sat down with some clients this week to debunk some myths that many of us hold on to, about the end of one year and the beginning of a new one and this time of year in general when the pressure feels on.

Does it need to be? Does a new year have to be such a big deal?

Maybe some of these will resonate with you too, maybe some will help you with where you’re stuck in your own life, maybe some will help you get out of your own way, and maybe some will spark something inside of you that will expand your own awareness. This gave me profound food for thought.

If even one of these points help you be more compassionate to yourself in 2019, it will be worth it.

Myth 1:

I have to take a good hard look at myself on Dec 31st.


You can take a good hard look at yourself ANY day of the year. 


Myth 2:

Once a year, I have to take stock, get real with my life and know a set plan for the entire New Year – and that in itself is so overwhelming for me.


You can take stock, get real and plan each day, each week, each month or each year at any given moment. You don’t have to make this a once a year EVENT. Personal development is a PROCESS not an event. It is more like a gauge than a switch.

You can choose. You can work on multiple levels at any stage of your life at any time of the year. You don’t have to wait for a year to end or until you have a crystal clear picture of the year ahead. Each purposeful choice you make will lead you in the direction of where you want to go gradually and intentionally.

You don’t have to know everything right now.

Success is not an EVENT.

It is a PROCESS.

You do not have to know the whole story.

All you have to know is your next step.

Myth 3:

Everyone around me is setting resolutions and sharing what they’ve accomplished. Everyone is focusing on their wins. This time of year just makes me think of all the things I haven’t done yet or failed to accomplish.


You are allowed to review your year and choose what to focus on. You can focus on what you haven’t managed to do yet or you can choose to focus on things you have achieved. If you can review your year and take a challenge you’ve overcome or something you did that you are proud of, you are allowed to focus on that and celebrate that. We get to choose where to shine the spotlight. Either on all the things we haven’t managed to do – or – to shift our focus and put our attention, soaking up inspiration and motivation from the things we have managed to do. Whatever we focus on grows. You get to decide. You get to review everything that went wrong, or everything that went right. Or both.


Myth 4:

At the end of a year, that’s when we claim our big prizes and track our progress and perform evaluations.


Why wait?

You get to claim awesome prizes along the journey too. You do not have to wait until the end of the year to be proud of yourself, learn something new about yourself, develop strengths, or see progress, grow and develop. The end of not the jackpot!

Everything you do along the way is!

You get to track each step along the way. Each win is a really big deal, not just the end prize. In fact, often times, if we wait until December 31st to be proud of ourselves and celebrate success, we’ll give up long before.

Claim your prize, track your progress and evaluate throughout the year instead.


Myth 5:

My resolutions and goals are usually written down like this: All the things I must, have to, should, ought to, need to – and I genuinely find this pressurizing and stressful.


Pay close attention to language. Use other words.

The words have to, must, should, ought to – they activate the anxiety and stress centers in our brain. How about rewording your resolutions and goals with the words:

I will, I want to, I’m going to, I’d love to, I’d like to….

That way they will be value-based instead of needs- based. Your list becomes a heartfelt list of things that really matter to you, things you honestly want to do, things that are important to you. They become a blessing instead of a burden. Change your wording and your emotional experience may feel very different.


Myth 6:

I have to make changes in so many areas of my life simultaneously because when I am truly honest with myself, when one area isn’t at its best – everything feels like it’s just not good enough.


When we are making a change, it’s certainly messy in the middle.

It feels like the chaos has pervaded every area of our life.

Often, if we stop to separate each zone of our life into its own compartments, we may be pleasantly surprised to notice that so much is actually looking pretty good in other areas – we were just clouded by the fog of our current difficulty or obstacle that overtook everything else.

So – let’s separate them. There are amazing tools to do this well. We may be changing careers and everything feels so unstable, but when we look at our health or our hobbies or the relationships we have – those may indeed be flourishing. Let’s see each piece of the puzzle for what it is, rather than making sure the puzzle is perfectly complete.


Myth 7:

When I review my year, whatever hasn’t worked out the way I wanted it to, makes me feel like a complete failure.


Events and we are not one in the same.

Perhaps, what we tried failed, what we tried didn’t work. That may be accurate.

But we are not failures. The action may have failed.

We are not failures.

Let’s train ourselves to separate our actions from who we are.

And let’s consider failure as valuable feedback telling us that what we did didn’t work, it’s actually an invitation for us to make some important adjustments and try something else, something new, something different.

When I review my year, I can see failure as feedback and learn from it. My effort may have failed, but I am not a failure.

Myth 8:

Everyone has it so together. I’m a disaster.


Fact: No-one has it perfectly together.

We get a glimpse into people’s lives by what we see or what we have exposure to. There are countless behind the scene moments throughout the year where everyone we know is fighting a battle we know absolutely nothing about.

The biggest gift we can give ourselves is that of not comparing.

Not judging our successes and failures in relation to others.

It’s dangerous.

It leads to jealousy which is a futile emotion that allows us to count other people’s blessings instead of our own.

It also tempts us into using other people’s definitions of success as the yardstick for our own progress. And we may land up climbing to the top of someone else’s ladders only to sadly realize we climbed the wrong one!

What a shame that would be.

Our job is to look at ourselves. Live honest, authentic lives with integrity in alignment with our own values. Live your truth, your purpose – not someone else’s. To the extent that we can strengthen this abundant mindset, there is plenty for everyone and we can all achieve joy, fulfillment and meaning in our own ways. We can even help others achieve their goals and help them as much as possible. It’s quite awesome actually.

No one has it all together and you are not a disaster.

Myth 9

I think my idea of success isn’t serving me. Success to me is a person who has done well. I connect that to wealth and fame. I see people, especially around this time of year, celebrating in exotic locations at lavish New Years parties and I can’t help but wonder if I’ve been looking at success all wrong.


Who do you truly admire?

What is your definition of success?

I admire kindness.

I admire strong people who don’t give up, who know how to forgive, who are inspirational, positive and uplifting.

I admire givers.

I admire wise, thoughtful, knowledgeable people.

I admire people who are vulnerable about what’s hard.

I admire optimism.

I admire authenticity.

I admire helpfulness.

I admire gratitude.

I admire hard work.

I admire humor and laughter.

I admire depth.

Think about your definition of success.

Imagine your 90th birthday party celebration and someone stands up to make a speech.

The speech is all about you.

Everyone is gathered around to celebrate your life and your success.

What do you want them to say?

What do you want to be known for?

What legacy do you want to leave?

What contribution do you want to make in this world and this lifetime?

Our time here is fragile and precious.

Who do you want to be celebrated for?

Your answers to this question are magnificent clues and insights for you to create a life you want to celebrate.

Not only once a year annually on 31st December at midnight when the fireworks roar, but every single day, quietly and unassumingly, when no-one is counting and no-one is looking and there aren’t any fireworks drowning the noise of your fears and insecurities, doubts and humaneness.

The little things you do, to live a life you truly value, not because one day a year dictates you must, not because everyone else is doing it, not because you feel like a failure or because your success is being measured and judged by others’ standards, but because you want to, because you choose to, because one random Wednesday morning you reached your threshold and decided it’s enough, I’m doing this now, I’m committing today!

Because you had a moment of awareness or a spark of inspiration, or you felt willing enough and ready enough to take something upon yourself – that’s when you set resolutions and make a change.

Because that’s when it matters most and that’s how you create a life that has more meaning and heart for you, than any specific date or time of the year.

And yes – you get to party like crazy every single time you are brave and courageous. Every time you ask for help. Every time you try. Every time you get back up after you fall. Every time you do something new and take a chance. Every time to step out of your comfort zone – you get to party like crazy. Every time you cry. Every time you are afraid but do it anyway. Every time you show up, doing the best you can, with where you are.

And if it so happens to be December 31st – then that’s pretty amazing too!











5 Reasons Why You Should Seek The Help Of A Personal Development Strategist Life Coach

We don’t have to do it alone!

If you want to live the life of your dreams, using some help can help fast track your progress.

We all need to feel supported, challenged, encouraged, motivated, focused, inspired, disciplined and driven to achieve the highest possible vision of life that we have for ourselves.

And let’s be honest – doing that alone can be extremely hard!

Working with a life coach can be the most empowering experience of your life. I know, because I use one too.

This is especially true if you don’t feel supported currently, and don’t have that one person to help you achieve your highest vision for yourself.

Some of the most successful people in the world have sought the help of a great life coach. Oprah Winfrey credits her life coach, Martha Beck, for some of her success. Serena Williams worked with Tony Robbins to fight through a tough phase in her tennis career to bounce back, and ended up winning a grand slam. The list is actually endless! And I’m not only referring to famous well-known successful people, I’m talking about every person who uses the gift of coaching to help them make meaningful, lasting and effective change in any area of their life – big or small.

As the well known life coaching tools expert says, “A life coach does for the rest of your life, what a personal trainer does for your health and fitness.”.


Working with a life coach is a very different experience compared to working with a counselor, or therapist because a counselor or therapist will  ‘hear you out’ and help lighten the mental baggage weighing you down, with an important focus on the past – but a life coach will be the driving force to propel you into action and directly address the concerns that are weighing you down so you can focus on your future. Both are awesome and have huge value. My background is in Psychology and I love coaching because it is a formal, practical meeting where you work. You will take a ton of action, feel a lot more confident and get on the path to living the life you want.

More importantly, ‘life coaching’ is very broad and covers all aspects of your life.

As a life coach myself, I use a tool called the ‘wheel of life’ as well as The Passion Test to understand all facets of your life. This covers your health, relationships, career, finances, hobbies and more. Life really can’t be compartmentalized! And it’s important to move all aspects of your relationship in sync, in a holistic, constructive and connected way.

Some issues that could be keeping you stuck, for which you can seek the help of an experienced life coach include:

  • Your health. If you’re finding it hard to stick to your health goals, or need someone to hold you accountable, working with a life coach can be fantastic. Life coaches facilitate you into finding your own answers and making progress. They provide tools, inspiration and motivation and show you ways to move ahead step by step with purpose.
  • Your relationships. If your relationships are in turmoil, you’re moving to a new city looking to meet new people and make new friends, or you have issues with your family that weigh you down, working with a life coach can show you the path to building meaningful relationships that leave you feeling fulfilled.
  • Career issues. If you need help with coming up with a vision for your career that excites you, and helps you work towards your unique definition of ‘success’, working with a life coach can help you do just that.
  • Any other life issue. Life is not always straightforward. And life coaches can help you simplify it and make it as straightforward as possible, so you can live with confidence, and learn to win at life!

Personal development is for everyone. 

Nobody is perfect and we all have miles to go to break the boundaries, and know what’s possible for us. Tony Robbins said the one thing that leads to happiness is progress! If you’re not making progress in some area of life, you will stagnate, and your happiness will stagnate too. So, developing yourself to make progress is the true key to real and lasting happiness, no matter what stage of life you’re at.

I’d like to give you a few solid reasons why you should consider working with a life coach:

Reason 1: Save Your Time!

Imagine solving a very complex life problem, all by yourself. You might take days, even weeks or months before you come to a solution. As Einstein said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” Therefore, working with a life coach can help you save precious time and expose you to a whole new way of thinking, empowering you to come up with creative solutions to your problems.

Reason 2: Challenge Yourself.

Personal growth comes when you challenge yourself. But people don’t always challenge themselves, and that’s why some external stimulus from a life coach can provide the much needed challenge you need. Rather than sinking in the ordinariness you’ve created, a life coach can challenge you to become extraordinary.


Reason 3: Create An Inspiring Vision.

To get somewhere in life, you need a powerful vision. And your vision must be one that really pulls you towards it. Not one you have to push yourself with huge resistance to achieve. A life coach can be instrumental in facilitating you to create that vision. By helping you dream, visualize, and giving you amazing tools to break out of your current reality, a life coach can be the catalyst you need to create an inspiring vision that helps you be the highest, truest expression of yourself.

Reason 4: Make Concrete Plans.

Creating a vision is fantastic. But without a plan, a vision is just a dream.

To get to your dreams, you need the help of a life coach to enable you to come up with concrete plans and a strategy that helps you get there. A life coach will give you the tools and frameworks to make specific, time bound plans that help you achieve your vision.


With a lot of my clients, I use the incredible Walt Disney technique to help them create a vision of their dreams, and then make pragmatic plans to get there. I find it’s very effective in helping my clients think in uninhibited ways and create possibilities that previously looked or felt impossible.

Reason 5: Gain Crystal Clarity.

Whether it’s your health, career or relationships, the biggest challenge a life coach can help you overcome is not knowing what you really want out of life. This is the trouble with a majority of the people out there, who continue to live life on autopilot, drifting in any direction life takes them. A life coach can help you become more conscious, intentional and deliberate about the way you spend your time by helping you gain clarity about what you really and truly desire.

Wrapping it up

An international life coaching survey found that more than 80% of clients improve their self confidence, 73% improve their personal relationships, 72% improved their communication skills and over 67% improved their work life balance, simply by working with a life coach. Experience the thrill of working with a life coach and weave magic into your life.

I’m excited to support you every step of the way!

Let’s get started!

The Value Of Personality Portraits

As Aristotle says: “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”


Without knowing yourself, it’s impossible to make the right choices in life.

Think about it for a moment: what if introverted Elon Musk decided to be a standup comedian, or the talented Jim Carrey decided to be an accountant? Do you think they would achieve even half the level of success they have in their lives? I somehow doubt it!

The only reason why people are purposefully successful at life, is because they take the time to invest in understanding who they are, what their strengths and weaknesses are, and take meaningful action accordingly.

But knowing yourself isn’t easy.

Some people take a lifetime to know who they really are!

And that’s why we continue to make choices that are not always aligned with our core values, personality type and interests, often leading to tremendous disappointment.

A life coach can help you navigate this complex journey of understanding yourself.

Through asking you relevant questions, unpacking your purpose, and being your ‘mirror’ to help you see yourself better, a life coach can be instrumental in exploring yourself fully, and consequently, support you in your making wiser choices for living a fulfilling life.

A tool that’s helped me do this effectively as a life coach is Lumina Learning.

Lumina Learning is not just for individuals, couples or leaders looking to maximize themselves and their relationships. Lumina is a tool that directly helps organisations bring out the best in their people through showcasing and enhancing meaningful personal growth. Using innovative and unconventional psychometric testing, it reveals the colorful and complex personality portrait of the person taking the test to give them an even deeper dive and invaluable insight into their true nature.

The great thing about Lumina Learning is that it’s used by authorised coaches globally, so it’s highly credible, and being perpetually improved for accuracy. It’s not the usual psychometric assessment, it’s far more detailed, highly personalised and customised to every individual.

While this isn’t a sales pitch at all for Lumina, I genuinely believe in it and based on the overwhelming feedback from my clients, that I wanted to shed some light on just how amazing it can be for anyone looking to explore themselves, or any organisation that wants to understand team dynamics to produce the best possible outcomes.

The way it works is that individuals firsts complete a questionnaire, which produces a gorgeous ‘portrait’ of themselves, and who they are in relation to others. The test measures over 24 personality traits on a continuum, and is personalised through the coach you work with. The reason why it works accurately every time is because of the deep scientific research that’s gone into developing it!

By answering questions like the following:

  • How do you work under pressure?
  • What motivates you and what are your success drivers?
  • Which job role excites you the most?

you get a solid grasp of your strengths, weaknesses, motivational factors, inner drive, and your personality traits, which can be utilised for the purposes of:

  • Developing you as a leader
  • Improving your management skills
  • Knowing how you can look after your wellbeing
  • Build confidence
  • Refine your sales skills
  • Learn how you can lead change

And a lot more! So much more!

As a coach, I’ve seen just how insightful this assessment can be in addressing the needs of my clients, because it’s only when I truly know who they are, in relation to the various circumstances and situations they’ve been through, that I can assist them by making a meaningful difference to their lives and guide them towards their goals, vision and ultimate results!

The great thing about this assessment is that it’s universally applicable, no matter what profession you’re in. Whether you’re a doctor, musician, lawyer or artist, this test looks into your ‘traits’ and not so much your ‘skills’ so you can use this personal wisdom to your advantage whoever you are.

Another key benefit of taking this assessment is that it helps match organisations with the right talent to hire. While a CV may demonstrate your key competency skills, educational qualifications and experience, it doesn’t capture your unique personality traits which often leads to wrong hiring decisions and huge turnover.

For instance, you could have completed a psychology degree from university by virtue of being a great student academically, but if you lack empathy, you’re probably going to have a hard time being a good psychologist.

From the perspective of employers, the Lumina learning assessment clearly communicates who the ‘person behind the CV’ is. So if an organisation is looking to hire sales staff with a high tolerance for pressure to hit targets, the assessment will capture how effective the individual is in managing stress, empowering HR professionals to make better decisions.

To give you an example of how companies are using Lumina Learning, Tesco, a premier grocery retailer in the UK with over 6800 stores, and 440,000 staff members, wanted to build competent teams for it’s new chain of “Extra Stores” which were more client focused.

To do so, they used Lumina Learning to develop the ideal ‘team dynamic’ and came up with a goal for the types of personality types needed to be within a team to help a store flourish. This is what it looked like:



As you can see, Tesco needed people who were a combination of outcome focused, people focused, down to earth yet extroverted. This gave them a clear idea on ‘who’ they needed to hire to make sure their project was a success.

Armed with that laser like clarity on the types of people they needed to hire, they ensured their interviewed candidates went through the assessment in order to ‘cherry pick’ the ones who met their set criteria for success.

The results were fantastic, with Tesco having successfully launched it’s Extra Stores, with more client focused, outcome driven teams leading to lower attrition rates, and higher employee satisfaction, a win-win!

Wrapping it Up

Having been through the rigorous Lumina Learning practitioner qualification process, I am one of their globally licensed professionals and have access to their amazing network of professionals, facilitation guides, and understand the principles behind their methodology. Reach out to me if you’re interested in learning more about your own personality portrait and coming up with a strategic action plan to set you up for personal and professional success!

I’m excited to work with you. Let’s make 2019 your best year yet!







A date at the Cemetery

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Every week I have an artist’s date.


I spend time by myself and with myself, my thoughts and my core.

This beautiful ritual has become an integral and essential part of my week, and I look forward to the quiet and calm. The venue changes each date, but the one thing remains constant—it’s just me; no one else, no technology. Sometimes I sit at the lake, watching the fish and turtles glide their way through the water effortlessly. Sometimes I sit on the beach and listen to the waves crash relentlessly against the rocks. Sometimes I wander through flower fields of color. And sometimes I walk aimlessly though forests of trees as if entering a magical green tunnel where only the birds know my secrets.

Today, I sat at the cemetery. A place many of us fear.

Yes, the movies have created this eerie image where scary things happen and nothing feels safe. Yet under the glorious blue sky and stunning sunlight, today this place is still, peaceful and soothing. And I sit here and think: one day, whatever path we choose, whatever we make of ourselves, whatever life we choose to live, we will reach this place. I am filled with a sense of certain inevitability. And I feel inspired. By the lives that lived before me and the legacy they have left for me.

A cemetery is a powerful place. With all its lifelessness, it is mighty and compels me to think about my choices. Do I live well? Do I love fully? Do I serve greatly? Do I make a contribution? Do I live my passions? Do I look after myself? Do I make a difference?

A cemetery is a powerful place. Millions of memories flood my heart and mind as I sit here. I remember life lessons, experiences, moments I wish I could relive for real, and gratitude for the people who have contributed to my world and left an indelible mark on my heart. We never forget. The pain may dull somewhat, but we never forget, and missing someone is a deep cause to make them proud, do them justice and make every moment we have count.

A cemetery is a powerful place. Suddenly everything has new perspective: our problems, our challenges, our mistakes, our dreams, our values, our priorities. Sitting here, I am digesting over and over again that all we take with us are our deeds and who we have become, what potential we have realized and the value of our service to those we love. A cemetery is authoritative in its unassuming way of humbling us, and yet empowering in its wake-up call for us to appreciate what we have here and now and all the abundant opportunities and pleasures life offers.

This may be a very strange place to have a date. A place of finality. Yet coming here as a visitor just passing through for now is the most incredible and overwhelming way to be reminded and feel in awe of life, of eternal  faith, and the precious miracle of being alive, having a purpose and a mission to complete in this world.

Do we really fear death—or do we fear not truly living?

We Can’t Give What We Don’t Have

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We all have so many roles in this wonderful production we call life. Parts include the lines of: spouse, sibling, child, parent, friend, professional, manager, employee, customer, client – sometimes as main solo acts, sometimes all simultaneously.
Quite a remarkably significant undertaking we assume every minute of every day. And although the performances are dynamic, the actor remains, and what fills our being is vital for each brilliant scene.
One key X-factor to successfully juggle all these roles lies in a fundamentally timeless principle: You cannot give what you do not have.
(And therefore, I can only give what I have in me to give. And there is plenty – if we nourish it).
With this thought in mind, the sometimes overwhelming feelings of guilt when saying “no” to something or someone, the selfishness we critically experience when we seemingly put our own needs and wants first before those around us and the insufficiency we are compelled to endure when we are torn between the two, are triumphantly replaced with logic, reason and scientific evidence: I have to give to myself in order to continue to give to others. I can’t possibly give what I don’t have.
Because, it makes sense. And for us to continue to give more of the same – at some level, it has to make sense to do so. And we remind ourselves that we too are worthy of receiving.
When I am full, be it of energy, creativity, positivity, abundance, inspiration, motivation and love – there is far more available from within me – to spread to those I am fortunate enough to touch and engage.
However…. When I feel demotivated, weak, depleted, negative, fearful and lacking, there is far less, of anything accessible, for me to share with those I am blessed to serve and love.
Whether we are concerned with our relationships, health, career, finances, contribution, service – and memorizing the unwritten script that we can’t give what we don’t have, it becomes an obligation to ourselves and our audience to ensure that we look after ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And the best part – not because we are arrogant, egotistical, apathetic and want to showcase at center stage, but because when we are giving to ourselves feeling strong and complete in our bodies, minds, hearts, and souls – we give ourselves the unique ability to do more with ourselves, be more of ourselves and give more of ourselves in every level. And only in this way, can we deeply and truly enrich our own lives through every passionate role we play, where enthralled audiences throughout our daily world are too captured, entertained and engaged- all the more richer.
How can you treat yourself today so you can be more, do more and give more?

7 Ways My Kids Remind Me to Live Fully

Sometimes our children can be our greatest teachers.
Here are seven ways my kids remind me to live more fully:
1. To run around barefoot – because that’s simply how it is.
I love how the second they walk through the door, their shoes are flung off their little feet. They are carefree, they feel, their senses are acute and accurate. They love freedom, and the thought of being confined by something is unthinkable. Yes – off come the shoes! And their spirits are wild. My kids teach me to wake up, be free and let loose.
2. To see wonders in the tiniest things – because they are just that full of wonder.
I love how the awe and amazement of watching an army of ants march across the garden wall from one end of the sand to the fruit tree is a highlight. The attraction to miracles in animals, nature, even little bugs and insects that do not seem appealing in anyway, they find beyond fascinating and a super thrill to show-off to their friends and each other. My kids teach me to appreciate the flowers, the raindrops, the wind, things that we can so easily take for granted.
3. To say it as it is – because that is what they see, and honesty is their world.
I love how my kids speak the whole truth and nothing but the truth. If they are angry, they let me know. If they are happy, they show it. If they are excited, we all feel it. If they are scared, they share their fear. They get straight to the point and somehow manage to change every complaint into a request because all they know is what they want. They know what works for them and what makes them feel good. They know what they enjoy, who they love to play with and what they won’t tolerate. Their boundaries are so clear. My kids teach me to live my truth. My kids teach me to keep it real.
4. To try, and try again – because they really want something so badly, they are willing to persevere.
I love how they are not intimidated by something strange, curious and challenging. They will invest so much time and energy trying to climb a difficult tree, open a locked box and work out how to manipulate, discover and reveal something hidden. Children have mastered certain elements of persistence and determination; its remarkable to conceive how such little beings can be so big in their ideas. My kids teach me that anything is possible. My kids teach me to never give up.
5. To be on the move – because why go through life in slow motion when you can bounce?
I love how my kids don’t just walk. Or stay put where they are. They run, cartwheel, skip and dance wherever they go. Even climbing into bed at night would seem like a circus act of dexterity and advanced acrobatics to many traditional adults. Because they have energy – endless energy. My kids teach me to love my body, to move and to do everything with passion and zest.
6. To have fun – because worrying about something that hasn’t yet happened makes no sense to them, their time concept is here and now.
I love how they live so entirely in the moment. Nothing is 50 percent. If they are painting, they are painting with every part of their little bodies. If they are performing, they are singing from the depths of their hearts and souls. If they are splashing in the water, they are splashing even with their eyes. They function at 100 percent fun. Right here, right now. My kids teach me to be present. What was, was, and what will be, has not yet happened. So all we have is now.
7. To love – because that’s what we do, and that’s what we are.
I love waking up to the biggest and most beautiful hugs and kisses from my children, and the best part of my day is tucking them in at night. Their hugs speak what their little hearts and minds don’t yet know how to communicate, and their unconditional affection is the strongest bond I have ever experienced. It is unbreakable. My kids teach me what truly matters at the start and end of every day. They teach me priority, values and purpose.
As parents we are blessed to learn from the smartest teachers.
Thank you my precious children for reminding me.

Are your goals SMART?

bcf39e88-5731-43bb-9d4b-e5b3b2b1fdf2Any change or progress must start with a first step.
And the direction of motion is crucial for success. As Brain Tracy so beautifully says, “Our goals allow us to control the direction of change in our favor.”
Throughout our lives, we plan, we schedule, we create the ever-popular “to-do-lists” and we use systems and tables to help us, and rightly so, to make sense of everything we wish to accomplish.
But how do we select our goals initially, and what makes them so effective? What makes these goals fundamental to our guaranteed achievements?
Making sure each and every goal that we choose to set for ourselves in business and in life is as essential as to how much effort we are willing to invest to make it happen and as to how badly we truly want it to materialize.
We learn so much about SMART goals in life coaching and self-development, so here is a simple breakdown for you to add to your toolbox for building your personal best life and enabling your absolute best to shine:
Pick your first goal:
S – Is my goal specific? Am I trying to aim for something based on some random vague generality or do I know exactly what I want. Getting so clear about what we want to show up in our life is in direct proportion to the extent that it show up in our life. If I am not specific and explicit about my wants, dreams and intentions-my steps towards this uncertain space are gloomy and obscure. We want clarity, focus and precision.
M – Can I measure my progress and success? When your performance can be measured and recorded numerically, it is far easier to keep track of a consecutive outcome. For example, weight loss, income.
But what about goals that involve inner-work, self-acceptance, fulfillment, improved relationships – things we want to do better, however we can’t attach a numerical value to its attainment?
Knowing what something looks like, feels like, thinks like, behaves like once it is already there is the ultimate measurement for deep change. It is as if we ask ourselves: who will I be once I have met that goal? What will I gain by meeting this goal? How will my life be different once this goal is met? How will be life be better once this goal is met? What will I do, be and have, that I don’t right now?
We need to allocate equal attention to our “being” needs in the same way that our actions meet our “doing” requirements.
A – Is my goal attainable? Now check again, is it really? Double-check yourself, as only you can do this self-assessment by asking two questions:
1. Is this goal realistic?  I do not want to let myself down.
2. And even more so, is this truly as high as I can aim or could I possibly challenge myself even further? Really?
R – Is my goal in every way, shape and form related to my vision? Is this something that will truly bring me closer to my ideal future. Is there a harmony here between what I am about to do and what I wish for my ultimate existence? Does this make sense. This is the primary reason why we should always work on our vision before we set our goals, even if it feels uncomfortable to look so far down the road, so we can then use that as a yardstick to ensure our goals are and remain relevant, significant and effective markers that will help us create and materialize our ultimate plan.
T – is my goal timed? Have I set a reasonable deadline? Without writing things down and making sure we stick to the plan, we lose one of our most precious and valuable resources that we can never regenerate- our time. Let’s do our utmost to make sure that all our goals are timed so that we can keep moving forward, without regret and at our own steady and disciplined pace.
What are you waiting for?
Sit down and dream. Create and feel passionate about your own personal vision, hold it tight, lock it and set some SMART goals and then write them down.
Thinking them is not enough. For our “goals once in writing are merely our dreams with deadlines”.
Be SMART and make all your dreams come true.

Us Humans Have These 7 Superpowers

Good news!
We have a few superpowers that no one can take away from us.
That’s right!
And just when we thought we had to live much of our precious time in “survival” mode, anxious about the competition, safe-guarding our rights and resources, and breathing on edge each day with the notion that for us to win in this lifetime, the people around us have to lose because there’s simply just not enough to go around.
1. We have the power to make choices in every single situation.
This is an incredible gift, often called “free-choice.” In every decision, circumstance and opportunity presented, you have the choice of how to interpret it, what to feel as a result, and inevitably how to act and behave accordingly.
2. We have the power to seek and find good – even in the bad. 
This strength of character is what makes the optimist rise and remain in a realm of possibility where there are always alternatives and where challenges, difficulties and even “failure” are just part of growth. This power enables new lessons to be learned,  new paths to follow, and deep changes to take effect.
3. We have the power to lead by example and become a role model to others just by behaving with integrity. 
How amazing to realize that our children, our friends, our partners, our clients — anyone we interact with can become inspired in some small way by our actions and deeds — no matter how natural and unassuming they may seem. The values we convey by our daily habits and behaviors give us incredible leadership potential and we owe this much to those we love and to those we want to see win.
4. We have the power to do the very best we can with all that you have. 
No one can take away your ability to give 100%. This power is commonly referred to as “will-power” and unfortunately, the unwritten contracts we have with ourselves are usually the first ones we break. We think twice before letting someone else down but move on quite comfortably from letting ourselves down. We deserve to give ourselves 100% and invest 100% of what we have into the things that matter most in our lives.
5.  We have the power to treat others with compassion, dignity and love. 
The way we speak, the way we advise, the way we parent, educate, manage, love, and work can all be handled with care and thought. We have the power to give the benefit of the doubt if we want to. People will always remember how we make them feel and we have an unbelievable amount of influence in all of our interpersonal relationships.
6.  We have the power to do 1% more today than we did yesterday. 
With clear goals, we have the power to do more and be more today than we were the day before. No one said change is easy and no one ever claimed that real transformation happens overnight. Small disciplines over time, as little as 1%, lead to lasting and deep improvements which ultimately get us closer to where we want to be.
7. We have the power to focus our time, energy and resources on the things in our life that bring us health, happiness,  joy, and fulfillment. 
We all battle with the guilt that “giving to myself and following my dreams and ambitions is selfish.” The universe wants us to be ourselves, and the world will benefit far greatly once we are aligned with our passions and feel whole, healthy, and strong. It’s a win-win for everyone when we live with purpose, direction and meaning.
Superheroes don’t merely exist in movies, cartoons and comic books. We each have tremendous natural superpowers that are always available to us should we wish to use them to do so much good in this lifetime.